The lost of innocence is marked by the start of pretense
And is he very wise, good, and splendid, dear?
He ought to be if you love him. I hope he isn’t bad?
I’m suited, that’s enough
Louisa May Alcott, An Old Fashioned Girl
Study without desire spoils the memory, and it retains nothing that it takes in.
The years between eighteen and twenty-eight are the hardest, psychologically. It’s then you realize this is make or break, you no longer have the excuse of youth, and it is time to become an adult – but you are not ready.